THE ISLAMIC CURE FOR MASTURBATION - THE BASICS

ASSALAMU'ALAIKUM


Introduction

After reading some articles on the topic of "Controlling Masturbation from an Islamic point of view," I have come up with my first article on this topic. These are the basics.
Before continuing, I would like to warn my readers that mere reading of this article will bring nothing into effect. When I was addicted to masturbation, I would read "Curing Masturbation" pages but they didn't have any good effect on me. Now, I know the reason. I didn't take each and every word of those articles very seriously. I didn't practice what they told me to. Take a lesson from this experience of mine, and please don't repeat what I did.

What about D'ua?

I have always been asked, "Isn't d'ua (asking help from Allah) enough to keep us away from this filth (masturbation) ?" Of course, no one can deny the importance of d'ua. In fact, the fourth ayah of Surah Al-Fatiha is:
"You do we worship and from You do we ask help from"

However, you must know that only words are not enough. Faith without works is dead in Islam. We have to take action after d'ua, otherwise it won't profit you.

The Best Way to get rid of Masturbation

The best way to get rid of masturbation is to get married, and this is the opinion of the scholars. This is the ever-lasting cure. Wives may masturbate their husbands, this is allowed in Islam. But people can't do it themselves, it is an immoral act.
But wait... there are many people out there who can't get married. What about those people?

I can't get married!

Are you a teenager who can't get married? Are you thirteen or fourteen years old and you can't even think about marriage at this age? Or is it that you don't have the money to get married?
Well, in this situation, Islam will help you. Islam is the complete way of life - the correct way of life from Allah, the Lord of the Worlds. He guided us in this matter as well. The PROPHET MUHAMMAD (S.A.W) said:

"O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."

Fasting is something that every one can do. Some people give me the excuse that they are too young and that they can't fast because their parents would allow them to do so. This is a lame excuse, tell your parents plainly, "I am fasting to please ALLAH."

Fasting may be something that any one can do, but its really difficult. It's not all about leaving food and drinks. Fasting basically makes us more submissive to ALLAH.

While fasting, you must pray five times a day for your fast to be accepted. Otherwise, forget about the cure for masturbation. The one who is fasting should say the five obligatory prayers in congregation, should not lie, should not use abusive language, should not tell immoral jokes, should never look at ghair-mahram women (those with whom marriage is allowed), should not watch television, should not smoke, should not sing, should not listen to songs or music, and should strictly abide by the Sunnah, and all other Islamic manners and etiquettes, etc. You have to do all the Sunnah acts and all the obligatory acts to please ALLAH. These good deeds will purify you heart, increase your imaan (faith), and will make you love ALLAH. It will make you more obedient and clean, and you will want to obey ALLAH. And when this stage comes, you won't even think about masturbation!

However, its all about taking the first step. Start fasting. I know that there are people who will just get happy be seeing this article, and won't act on what it says. This is something that can destroy you.

Repentance

"For every disease there is a remedy, and the remedy for sin is repentance."

This is a hadith that they taught me in school, and I still remember it. Who is repentance a remedy for sins?

Before answering this, let's know what repentance is according to Islam. Repentance is to feel guilty of the sin you committed, and to return to ALLAH and to never do that sin again.
Repent every time you masturbate. Feel guilty of the sin that you commit. After repentance, never masturbate again.

However, if you tried your best never to masturbate after you repented, and you tried it very hardly, and you were struggling to stop masturbation because you had repented, but you still failed and masturbated again, then what will happen? You've done it again, start it all over. Repent again, and then make your intention never to return to masturbation. After extreme struggle, if you masturbate again, then repent again. Even after that you were that you overwhelmingly couldn't control yourself and sinned (masturbate) again, then repent again!

The point is that repent each and every time you sin. This will help you feel regret when you break your previous "repentance. " This will also keep you away from sin. How? Let me explain.

For example, if your mother told you never to hit your smaller brother, and you agreed with her, but still hit your small brother, she would obviously be angry with you. If you promised her again not to beat the small kid, but broke your promise, she'll be angry with you again. Then, if you promise her again, but break the promise again, she will not tolerate such behaviour again. But, what will be your position? Won't you feel regret each time you broke your previous? A time will come when you'll stop hitting the small child. Similarly, after repentance a time will come when you stop masturbating.

Conclusion

These were the basics, and if you don't act on these, then forget about curing masturbation. Put the above-mentioned points into practice, or else you'll soon become hopeless.

You may find it difficult to do all the things. One common difficulty in the way is one's own family, friends, relatives, etc. They might ask you, "Why are you fasting? Why are you praying five times a day in the Masjid? Why...?" Tell them plainly, "To please ALLAH and to purify my self."

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